The Mishaps Of The First Time Mother : Story Of My Life 

They say that there are no perfect parents, but, we can be excellent in this divine role that we are called to do. If you are called to be a parent, a mom or a dad – you can be excellent at it! There’s hope! 

In intro, our family does not have a perfect family set-up, our work overseas gave us a momentary distance with our little one for almost a year. We have our financial priorities to settle and the only way to earn more in a shorter period of time is to go abroad. Not only the pay is high, but opportunities are a lot. So my husband and I decided to work overseas and leave our childcare to my mom in law. (Some may not understand this situation but it’s something that most of our countrymen do, due to lack of opportunities)

Now, here is the fun part… after a year of tears, patience, hardwork, prayer, sheer determination, blood, sweat & by God’s grace we reached our goal. It’s time to go back home, for good. Fast forward to the present situation, my work as a financial consultant in the corporate world has FINALLY ended and I am now venturing to a full-time housewife role. (Some of my friends cringe when they hear this, but I am excited – because I know God called me to this) 

After months of prayers and interceeding and seeking God’s answers, we finally made it through this wonderful decision. My husband and I thought that this is what God wants us to do and for myself, I am sure of my calling this time – to become a mom/homemaker/housewife. After all, God is entrusting me with huge opportunities of not only taking care of his son (my husband), our home affairs but most important, the future of the next generation (through my daughter). 

CATCH THE STORY

Oh joy, glad that finally we are reunited together after a year. My baby, my husband and myself, just us, no helper, no parents – just us. 
And migrating process demands lots of errands, which is obviously part of our transitions – it does requires us to travel for a moment and since we worked overseas for a decade we still have some paperworks to accomplish. That’s why we still need to stay for 2 more months overseas (in the country we are residing in) but good news, this time we got to do all these with our baby – as a family. 

So we got on to our plane, all set. Checklist are all okay, checked in our luggages and finally settled on to our seats. And to cut the long story short, we reached our destination easy-peasy. We landed safely  and when it’s time to head on to the immigration, suddenly, my 3 year old toodler decided to poop. Oh yes, it was that awful smelling boombastic poop that I need to attend to, ASAP! (There is no explaining here, my baby needs to go, quickly)

So right after immigration, we went straight to the toilet and baam! When I checked our bags – its incomplete…Ive got no wet wipes, no extra baby clothes, all I have is one diaper, yes… just one spare diaper. So I have to relax and think breathe in and breathe out, there must be a way to this… 

So, I have to be creative this time, I must find ways to clean up my little princess. So I went inside the cubicle and reality kicks in,  I think I need more than tissues, so I tried to clean as much as I can but that stinking smell is still there. Grabbed my  water bottle inside that carry-on bag so I used it to wash my baby. And by the way there was no baby room available for us, so I have to do it inside that cubicle – good thing it’s clean and tidy. As for the clothes, Ive got my smallest pair of shirt on my other bag that looked like a dress to my baby, so it’s okay. It was a memorable experience. 

LESSONS

Aside from the very obvious lesson which is to keep everything in check and always bring extras of everything… Ive got tons of lessons that I took away from that experience.

  • When life gives you lemons, make a lemonade

I realized, that there are no abc’s to motherhood, well maybe not for all. We all learn from our mistakes and there are no perfect mothers. Learn from experience and be ready when situation calls us to think on our feet, make a solution. When it comes to our little ones, we got to be creative, finding ways and resourceful, its not the time to whine and cry – this is about them. Situations can vary, but we have to be on our toes thinking and resolving. 

  • Accept your mistakes, forgive yourself and improve, be better

Mistakes and failures are tools for learnings. Sometimes even as we read books or listen to other’s experiences we still forget but the moment we experience it ourselves, how is it like to forget a simple “wet-wipe” to put inside your bag – what will happen and etc… you’ll learn. So next time, before leaving home, check and recheck, do some checklist separated for the needs of your child. Do a system that works best for you. Doesn’t have to perfect just a practical system that is workable for you, for your husband most importantly for your child. 

  • Be humble and continue learning

First time mothers like me, tend to be excited to do all things, all the time specially concerning the affairs of our baby. We all want to be hands-on.  
And because we are moms, we always hear that “mothers knows best” we sometimes pretend that we know best – but admit it or not we don’t know everything. There are so many things to learn. Thus, require us to continue learning from people we know best, our very own mothers, the other moms who has more experience than us and of course looking up to the only perfect parent, God. 
We can’t absorb motherhood in one sitting, it may take a while to learn all, but if we are willing, we can be excellent in this calling. Open your heart and learn, don’t stop and practice it all the time. 

CONCLUSIONS

Be encouraged moms and dads. Although, we sometimes fail with our planning and etc, it’s okay. Here is our comfort: 

Lamentations 3:22–23

The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases;
His mercies never come to an end;
They are new every morning;
Great is your faithfulness.

We always have our hope and our greatest comfort is knowing that although we are inadequate, we may sometimes miss the mark – God, our heavenly Father will always fill our cups and He will teach us, He will guide us on our way in fulfilling our highest calling, to disciple our children, to become excellent in our purpose and to nurturing the next generation. 
So Moms, don’t stop, you’ll get there! 

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WOMENS DAY: CONFIDENCE & RELIANCE

WOMENS DAY: CONFIDENCE & RELIANCE

Greetings to all the wonderful women God created! Happy womens day to all! 

Read; Luke 22:32, Psalms 125:1-2


“but I have prayed for you that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned again, strengthen your brothers.”” ‭‭Luke‬ ‭22:32‬ ‭ESV‬‬


“Those who trust in the Lord are like Mount Zion, which cannot be moved, but abides forever. As the mountains surround Jerusalem, so the Lord surrounds his people, from this time forth and forevermore.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭125:1-2‬ ‭


REFLECT

 
Oftentimes we forget how vulnerable people we are. When we face trials or testing, often we see ourselves figuring out the solutions to solve our problems, one which we sometimes have a hard time with. We stress ourselves, become worry-freaks thinking that we all can solve our problems and that solutions always relies in our heads. Truth of the matter is, most of the time we cannot do things on our own. Not all problems that we have, we can solve ourselves. 

Women in general, has list of uncounted things to tackle daily. We get stressed with sometimes the minor stuffs and often we realise that we may the bigger ones. It all sratrts with the grocery items, the household chores, the meetings with friends, the expenses and budgets, the menu for the day and etc. The list goes on, sometimes we can get caught up with the minor things then eventually becomes bigger and uneasy to handle. Then we stress and we stress some more. 

I also realised that women tend to have ideals and perceptions about certain things that can sometimes be unrealistic in nature. We have set plans and goals we want to achieve and when hiccups comes up, we rattle. Often I meet women who planned too well, that even the un-imaginable sort of lapses that may happen, has been sorted already. Women have this sense of futuristic thinking and we often live in our little “perfect world” ideals – but I believe that life in general isn’t all about that.

The result of this phenomenon, I guess,  is we become too self-reliant, we portray an image that we are more stronger than ever, we become people that can always sort things out, but the caveat is that we are limited people. We cannot solve all problems, we cannot be there at all times, we cannot find ways all the time, we can be tired sometimes and we all need help. 
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We must all learn from Jesus, during His journey on earth as a human, he was not afraid to show his susceptibility to human sympathy & support, which sends a direct message that it is really okay to want and accept help. This is what He calls, “humility”. 

That attitude of reliance to the one you know who could better help you and admitting to yourself that you need it. Not being too proud or too simple to do things on your own even when you can’t, in settling matters on your own even if you know you cant do it. 

King Solomon writes that a wise man must desire more learning in order to be wiser. 

Children of God, must follow Jesus ways. There are so many life stresses and problems that we cannot solve on our own. We needed sympathy, encouragement and support from the only One who knows better. Before anyone else, we need to be confident and reliant to the wisdom of God’s instructions in our lives. 
As David writes in the book of Psalms, 

Those who trust in the Lord are like Mount Zion, which cannot be moved, but abides forever. As the mountains surround Jerusalem, so the Lord surrounds his people, from this time forth and forever  ‭‭

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Our Father, the Lord of heavens and the earth, surrounds his people like a mountain. It abides and does not move, it sees all things, know all things – and He is just there always ready for support. He does not leave, if we are aware, we have a full grasp of His huge presence in our lives. 

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So to all the sisters, mothers, wives and daugthers, happy womens day! Remember that God is in control and He loves you. Remember that it’s okay to ask help if you can’t, you will still be a superwoman – no matter what! 

What are you sowing? 

What are you sowing? 

READ: Hosea 8:7

“For they sow the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind. The standing grain has no heads; it shall yield no flour; if it were to yield, strangers would devour it.” ‭‭ Hosea‬ ‭8:7‬ ‭ESV‬‬

REFLECT

This verse gives diligent reminder about our daily time expenditures – where do we spend most of our time with? Does it give us favorable results in the future? Does it give eternal value or does it even add any value to what we consider is important to us? 

Then a personal question hit me: Have I been slacking lately? My answer is, yes. I think there had been some areas of my life, which I have not really been consistent with. I realized that when I slack, I am not tackful and I tend to go around and it slows down my growth areas. I slack when I lose focus. And then, it goes on…

The moment I lose focus or I lose track on my goals, I would blindly invest my precious time on superficial and non-important things. I can easily say yes to things that are not so important, or I welcome too much agendas or activities that does not give too much of a value to my goals. Then I will begin to squander around. 

I realized that when this starts to  happen, I would always see myself overwhelmed with the truth that I have not really even move forward towards any of my goals. And that’s when I would re-track and start getting serious with my personal planning and execution. There will be times that I can ransom it but most of the time, I would miss the mark. Then I would settle for “it’s okay, Ill just try to make it better, next time”.

That’s clearly a problem. For some, we think that a little bit of this and a little bit of that can help us, truthfully, when we become too naive with our poor choices, we will never meet any of our life goals. 

Fact is, It’s not all about being a “do-gooder” but it’s about knowing the value of what we are doing. If it yields no eternal or future value, then we can admit that it’s in vain. We could definitely stop toiling for it, because not only our greatest efforts would mean to nothing, but worse is that we may be striving for a “whirlwind” that may even damage our best intentions. 

Some of the best people I know has given much value only to the things that creates good results. They spend time and effort only on the things that they see themselves growing. They master the craft, they study the goals, they invest and save, they toil and wait, they carefully watch their seasons. 

Knowing and realizing this, lately,  I developed for myself  a tracking habit, where I would intentionally review myself monthly and pen down the results month in and out. I would have an honest assessment with myself with whatever progress and slacking I am doing towards my growth goals and it’s helping me a lot in terms of knowing how achievable my targets are; personally, spiritually, physically, emotionally, financially and relationally. 

“If we sow wind, will reap a whirlwind”

RESPOND

1. How do you value your time and your goals? 

2. Do you give importance to the minor things that adds value in achieving your major dreams? 

3. What are you sowing? 

PRAYER

Dear God, help us remember to examine whatever we are doing, and that everything that we do is in line with your will. Help us become fully aware to where we spend our time with, help us recognize our choices and that our activities produces results and not empty and vain progress. Make us good stewards of time, relationships, finances, emotions and choices. Help us not neglect to give value to our spiritual growth too. In Jesus name, Amen! 

Serve our Community: Thoughts and Lessons

Serve our Community: Thoughts and Lessons

The “Serving our community” outreach project of our church brings too much refreshment to me, everytime, personally. More than an obligation or task, it blesses me more. This outreach helped me realized and confirmed that God cares for his children continously, no matter how young or old they get. Whether we are physically complete or broken, rich or poor – it doesn’t matter, God loves us all the same. God cares for us all the same. 

The uncles and aunties in one of the old folks home that we are reaching out brought so much reminder of why God gave his life for us. The very reason why He came to save us – truth is, we are all broken, abandoned, lost and weak – we all need a Saviour who can save us all from this fallen world. 

Over the past weeks and months that I have been helping, it became no longer a christian duty – but more of an encouragement to share God’s love more and make people know the goodness of being in God’s family. 

My task is not difficult though,  I just have lead songs of worship during the chapel services before the pastor shares God’s word. And though the uncles and the aunties may or may not understand or respond to the songs we are singing, I felt like I am declaring God’s word over their lives through hymns of songs. 

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And the Lord never fails to amaze me eveytime, even more, on how He works into the lives of each individual in that room. I always witnessed with my eyes that some of the aunties or uncles, despite the difficulty of them raising their hands – they would try. Despite the fact that they could no longer speak, they hum the tunes. I would see tears fall from their eyes as they touch their hearts. Isnt that amazing? 

It is not that ordinary sunday platform that you can lead people who are so ready to dance and shout, or to clap and sing with the songs of worship with you. It’s a night and day difference,  The Old Folks Chapel is a quiet room where all the wheelchaired uncles and aunties are sitting in front of you, looking at you as you sing alone add to that the languange barrier. They may scold you at times, if your guitarist got to play too loud and frown at you, if you have been singing too long. 

But, this place taught me so much more. Out of the confinements of my “christian comfort zone”, here is the real deal. This is the heart if Jesus. Sharing a piece of heaven to those who need it most. Even if they don’t respond, even if there is no crowd, or band – it’s like being a small lit of light to a dimming world of our elderlies. I may not understand the situation of how is it like to be old and sick but one thing I know, God loves us whoever, wherever and wherever we are. 

And everytime I volunteer to sing in front of them, I can really sense the love of God hovering in that place each time. It’s tender, gentle and comforting presence that envelopes the whole room, everytime. Making me cry with so much gratefulness because I recognize that kind of presence, it is God’s presence – Abba Father. When He walks in the room, You know that He is doing something internally, spiritually and emotionally. It’s soul-changing. 

God loves us all the same. We need that kind of love resonating to everyone that we see. I remember a quote from John Maxwell when he said; 

“People dont care how much you know until you care”

True isn’t it? 

LESSONS

When our eyes are all focused on what we need, what we want and everything that concerns only about “us” – we easily forget the importance of living. We live for a greater purpose and not only to strive in this life – and we lose that idea of purpose when we care less about our surroundings and about others. 

Our attitudes becomes rough and tough when we dont care. That’s why Jesus during his life on earth, He did not stopped in one place – he walk town to town to reach out. Because He knew that there is just one massive number of people who needs help. 

Keep inspiring! 

Hacksaw Ridge: Extraordinary Lessons from a not so ordinary war movie

Hacksaw Ridge: Extraordinary Lessons from a not so ordinary war movie

Hacksaw Ridge aired last year in other countries but shown in Singapore, only last month. This movie tells an extraordinary “true” story of an American combat medic, Desmond Doss. He saved 75 wounded soldiers during the World War II in Okinawa, Japan, without holding a weapon. His faith and valour are all his weapon to survive the frontline battle, together with the other men, he also fought in the front lines without a firearm or guns by tending to the other soldiers, he was there to perform his duty as a medic and be in aide for the wounded soldiers. He evacuated the wounded from behind the enemy lines, even when all others have left the Hacksaw, he alone stayed and saved as many soldiers as he could, risked his life and bravely faced the dangers of getting killed. His prayer “Lord, please help me save one more” became his motivation and purpose. 

Doss became the first and only conscientious objector to receive the Medal of Honor for actions above and beyond the call of duty during the war. But the road to this distinction was not easy, he faced army court trials, was bullied and judged as ” Desmond the coward” for holding on tightly to his faith in God, his discretions and belief. 

Here are 3 lessons I learned from the true-story movie Hacksaw Ridge. 

1. Learn your purpose. After watching this movie, I am convinced that if one man knows exactly his real, unique purpose in life – everything he does becomes intentional. It doesn’t matter if you don’t get a popular vote or nobody wants to believe your beliefs, as long as you are walking in the purpose God has called you, then everything will make sense. After all life is all about letting God use us in the purpose he called us, like Pvt. Doss, he knew exactly his purpose why he needed to stay in the army, he knew that he don’t need to combat but he must stay because God wants him to be there, to save lives – bring a refreshing help to the wounded. 

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2. Hold Fast to Your Convinctions. This movie also reminded me about the writings of the Apostle Paul in Hebrews 10:23, he says, Let us hold fast to the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful. Temptations of this world is always one step away from us, sometimes when life becomes tough, we compromise, we opt to take easy routes to gratify what we thought is a need, but later we’ll find out that the exchange is costly, our convinctions. Pvt. Doss, knew exactly his convinctions and for him it does not matter whether people believed him or not, even if he had to face series of misjudgments, trials and mockery, he held fast to his convinctions, he knew that his relationship with God is real and that’s all that matters. His promise to God was a promise he gave to an eternal living God and he stood by it, even if it caused him his reputation and image. God is a faithful God, He honors us, when we honor Him – later on in his army life, Pvt. Doss excellently executed what God has called him for, he not only saved lives but he fulfilled his calling. He gained respect from men and brought glory to the name of God. 

3. God’s power shines through in our weakness. This is not only true in the life of Pvt. Doss, but to many of us. God is the source of our strength, when we welcome His power to work in us, it definitely shines through. Even in the bible history, God uses the most unimaginable, unexpected, unqualified and weak people to do God’s assignments. Our flaws, imperfections, uncontrollable circumstances and limitations are all part of our inate individuality – if we don’t give it to the One who can fix it all for us, we strive. Some people find it hard to accept it, so they hide it, find excuses or resent them. This pride prevents God’s hand to work in us. God is never limited by our limitations, He is all powerful and He can turn our weaknesses to strengths, He have it altogether for us. Pvt. Doss, knew from the very beginning his emotional weakness and the hurt he hid in his heart – that is why he made a promise to God, to never hold a gun, because he knew that he can’t hurt people. This weak side of his, which his co-soldiers call “cowardness” in God’s perspective is “mercy and healing”. They see it as a weakness, but Pvt. Doss mercy to help the wounded and his eagerness to save as many soldiers as he can, was all that they ever need to see to know that God is on their side. Like the morphine he gives to those who are in pain, saving one person after the other, was that relief of care that no one will ever be abandoned, bravery and strength packaged in one, no one could ever have. 

There are so much to learn from this movie, this is not your ordinary war movie. Let me leave it right here. After watching this movie, I may read the book The Conscientious Objector Documentary. 

Congratulations, Mel Gibson and Andrew Garfield for giving your best to make this film. THANK YOU PVT. DESMOND DOSS, for a fulfilled, purposeful and encouraging life you lived! 

Fitness: Freeletics Coach Journey 

Fitness: Freeletics Coach Journey 

{this is not a sponsored blog, just a review on the app called Freeletics} 

I have been a “free athlete” for almost a year now, that’s what they call you if you are using an app called Freeletics. My inspiration in doing this workout routines and downloading the app for free came about when I saw my need to do something about my weight and fitness. Clueless and don’t know how to start, that’s how I described myself a year ago. 
My after pregnancy weight took a huge toll on me, adding to that, is my laziness and excuses – and I ended up with a whooping add-on 20kg, on my weight. Being overweight is not good, healthwise. I know I have to do something about it. No more excuses. 

I heard about Freeletics from a friend and saw some great results. Knowing myself too well, I know Im only good at first but I may give up anytime – so I hesistantly downloaded the app, so I can try. For almost a year, I was training reluctantly on and off – I trained if I feel like it or if Im in the mood, but countless are the days that I don’t. 

Surprisingly, freeletics gave justice to it’s promise – it helped me shed 10kg off my weight, which is really a shocker! It inspired and motivated me that if I go serious about my weightloss, maybe, I can reach my goals. Maybe this time, I should be more intentional, since I am already doing it. 

Freeletics, is a very straightforward, intense and motivating app, I would say. The “running” workouts are designed not to exhaust the runner on long miles of distances, rather, they teach more in building endurance, improving speed, helping you learn your breathing, catching the techniques – making rookies, like me, feel like they are being taught by a professional sprinter. 

They made the routines and workouts exciting – making you work on your speed, giving you ample of space to rest after each sprints so you can prepare for the next intervals. They gave an exciting approach on how to enjoy running, they have lots of varieties, intervals, long and short distance runs adding to that, the testimonials and motivational videos that is really inspiring, makes you run more and more. 
They are quite generous to let you try some of their free workouts, on their free version of the app which gives you the whole experience of freeletics. Helpful for those who just want to give it a try. One note though, it gives results. Making you want more. I guess the marketing is really good, but, more importantly the results is really acceptable. 
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As a result of my running workouts successfully, I lose 10kg last year, even if I was inconsistent with my training. With the results I got from last year and the commendations I get from friends who continuously tell me that I lose weight, I got convinced that I really have to be more serious with my fitness and become intentional with my trainings. 

Finally, last night, my husband and I, decided to buy the paid-app with a personalized coach to make our trainings more personalized. The app caused us $54 dollars for a 3months subscription. The paid subscription includes a personalized coach, personalized program matched to your capacity, a coach feedback and monitoring and a structured training workout. They also included the freeletics nutrition and running app – luckily, we got discounts too. 

Here’s how the paid-app look like; 

Was it worth it? 

Although it’s too early to tell, I would still say yes, compared to the huge pricing of gyms plus personal trainers – freeletics definitely is much more cheaper. Another plus is that you don’t need to travel far from home to do the workout, no need for the machines, all you need is the app and your availability. It’s you, your body, the app and the nature. Everywhere and anywhere definitely can do the workout. 
On the onset, the app gave a questionaire for us to fill out, giving a brief description on your weight, height, goals, gender, work type and willingness to train. Based on your answers, the app will analyze and match the possible coach suitable for you. 

Next is the physical test, the app will load some exercises for you to do and based on that you will give your feedback, per exercise. The physical test includes 50 jumping jacks, 50 high knees run, 10 burpees and 50 climbers — every after each workout, you get to share your feedback. You get to rate your feeling towards the exercise. 

It’s challenging and quite tough, maybe because of the answers I placed in the coach feedback form. But altogether, I enjoyed every exercises that the coach crafted for me. My husband and I have different sets of workout given by the coaches of freeletics. 

I also realized the importance of “warming-up” “stretching” and “intervals”. It helped ease some muscle soreness and put my body at ease during and after the workout. Honestly, I never really thought that I can do such intense workout and yet I feel excited about it. Never I realized that I have some muscles hidden in some parts of my body, good pains and soreness I never felt before. I feel stronger and driven. 

This app promises results, some testimonials says that in a disciplined, determined and serious training – it would produce great results in 15 weeks. And, I really look forward to that. 

So I will keep an update about this freeletics bodyweight journey every now and then, give feedback and hopefully can share some great and successful results, weekly, and who knows in 15 weeks – I will get my toned, lean, healthier body! 

Reflections: 5 Lessons to learn from the Life of Solomon

Reflections: 5 Lessons to learn from the Life of Solomon

As promised, here’s my first installment to understanding and studying the life of Solomon. My inspiration in studying his life, birthed from reading the book of Proverbs. His life was narrated in the book of 1Kings chapters 1-11, there are so many things to learn from the life of the wisest king ever lived, the son of the most famous king of the Old Testament David – so here’s the 5 things I took. 

Interlude, 

In summary, Solomon is really a man gifted with wisdom, discretion and leadership. He got his royalty, maybe from his genes, but clearly, God gave it to him generously, in fulfilment to God’s covenant with David, his father. 

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  1. Integrity matters

Wisdom comes from hearing and doing. Although, Solomon is still the “wisest” person who lived, he didn’t follow all that he learned from the Lord. Later on, his actions proved that he didn’t obey and clung into his own judgment about women, his wants. As they say, it doesn’t matter how you started, what matters is how you finish. His integrity fell off the mark at later part of his life. 

Solomon started good but he didn’t finish well. Yes, he is not at all perfect, but it’s also good to note that, Solomon even with his good background of wits and good knowledge – he still failed, how much more are we? To live with good integrity, we must fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and the FINISHER of our faith. 

2. Follow the warning signs

The Lord didn’t waste a chance not to warn Solomon about the dangers and consequences of him running after women. He didn’t pay attention, instead he pursued what he wanted, he had 700 wives and 300 concubines, that turned his heart away from the Lord. He walk on his own understanding, he forget to acknowledge the Lord, in his decisions, with his relationships. 

Warnings and cautions are given ahead of time, often we don’t know what’s out there but if we don’t pay attention to these warnings, we will surely fall into it’s dangers. Value instructions! 



 3. Invest in the next generation 

One blessing Solomon inherited from his father David was his throne, fame and glory. In which Solomon didn’t give to his son because of the consequences of his sinning. Solomon robbed the chance from his son to reign because of what he did during his time. His son suffered and bear the consequences of a divided kingdom, adversaries created against the kingdom, because of his father’s stubborness. What an inheritance, a mistake that cannot be taken away from the future of next generation. 

As a parent, I am reminded of my actions and my investments on my daugther’s future. The way I treat myself physically, my marriage, the way I handle our finances, our spirituality and our souls, the way I value relationships and family – will all contribute to the future of my daugther. That’s why I have to be more intentional, henceforth. 

 4. Hearty Decisions 

One of the most prominent character traits of Solomon is his godly wisdom, which seemed to have vanished after he run women after women from different nations. His credibility and integrity vanished and so his decision makings went hay-wired, because his heart is at the wrong place. He made temples for gods, that has no value and has caused God to be angry. He made hasty and thoughtless considerations to his actions and just did what he felt like doing. 

Our decisions, can go wrong if we our hearts is at the wrong place to begin with. Our human inclination is always towards sinning, and if we are not guided and if our minds are clouded by too much of our selfish desires and aspirations, surely our lives will be miserably damped into failures. Solomon’s discretion earlier in his life always sprouted from his good and deep relationship with God, cautious, guided and careful. But when he started sinning, and his heart is no longer wholly before the Lord, his decisions failed. He failed miserably. 

5. Invest on Godly friendships

One of the greatest things Solomon did during his early years of reign was to surround himself with people who could help him establish his leadership. He handpicked and chose carefully the people who would surround him throughout his tenure which helped him focus on his agendas, because he got all the qualified people around him. 

Toxic relationships, definitely affects our whole being. Be wise in choosing friends and relationships, we wanted to be intentional with those whom we wanted to spend our time, effort, asset and life with. We don’t want to waste our passing time to people who doesn’t contribute any growth to ourselves. 

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My prayer for us is that we would learn from this man of wisdom, he, like us is frail and prone to make mistakes despite his wisdom, he still failed. The lessons and learnings from his life, we must always remember and not be taken for granted. 

Remember what he wrote in his proverbs; 

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3:5-6‬ ‭

Let us not be wise with our own eyes, nor learn to be proud and not take instructions. Let us learn to value the experiences of others, learn to integrate God’s word as the basis of our lives and learn to trust God and acknowledge His standards, His ideals, His words in all of our ways – so we can finish strong!