Discipline: Learning from my 3 Year Old Toddler 

Who says that raising a child is easy? As for myself and my husband we would say that it isn’t. It demands a lot of “walk the talk” kind of moment, adjustments and leading by example. 

Since we finally have been reunited with our fireball baby girl, we were able to see and observe things that Jake and I needs to address about her, including us and the strategies we need to be equipped of so we can raise her according to the ways of the Lord. Discipline is on top of our priority and as clueless as we are, what best way to understand parenting than to hear it from the Best Parent we know, God. 

It’s not as easy as 123 because we realized that children as little as they are, have characters that needs some understanding, love and corrections. And what makes our situation a bit of a challenge is the fact that we are also re-introducing ourselves to her, as her parents (we have been apart for almost a year). So the question for us is, how can we discipline her in the most loving way that she would embrace obedience even at her young age. 

A good and old friend of mine advised me about “choosing our battles” when it comes to disciplining our child. That means we must be able to discern the actions of our daughter, we must check if it’s a heart or innocence issue then from there we can address it. Sounds easy right, but for my husband and I who are clueless we really don’t have a full understanding on how to start, until one time we witnessed with our own eyes how our baby deliberately ignored us when we called her attention and say “stop”. 

I was hesitant about “spanking” but I know it’s a biblical way of discipling your child. So one time, when we were outside in the playground, Jael showed her us her best tantrum catching the attention of some old moms there. Jael doesn’t want to stop even if we have told her that it’s time to go, so we carried her out and in her defense & with the sole intent of making us see how she can make things her way, she shouted “help, help”. Not only did we make a scene but it was kinda embarassing because I thought I could not control my child. Oh, I couldn’t wait to finish this scene, I walked as fast as I can, carrying my daugther who shouts help in the corridor of our flat until we reached the lift. Surprisingly, I didn’t break down neither did I feel angry towards her. Honestly, what I felt was an urgent matter to address and correct this uncontrollable attitude of my 3 year old. 

Soon as we reached home, I collected myself and spoke to her in a serious manner and I said, “go your room”. I brought her to the corner of our room and talked to her, I warned her that because she was disobedient and she ignores our warning, I have to spank her. She looked at me carefully and shouted and cried. So I took my “pamalo” (wooden stick) and decided to give her a swat across her bum, enough to sting but not to wound her skin. That’s the very first official spank she received from me. She cried loudly and I hugged her tightly, until she calmed down. Then I look at her in the eyes and I told her ” I love you”. She repeated the same phrase and she said “sowee” (sorry). I told her to OBEY and remember to OBEY. She said “okay, obey”. (I was surprised that she understand***) 

After that scene, she now listens to my voice when I call her name and when I say “stop” she obeys. There are still some moments when she tries her way out to do things that she still wants to do. But slowly she is reminded about that “pamalo” which I intentionally placed somewhere she can notice and she would say “obey”. 

Just make sure you stay alert. Keep close watch over yourselves. Don’t forget anything of what you’ve seen. Don’t let your heart wander off. Stay vigilant as long as you live. Teach what you’ve seen and heard to your children and grandchildren. (DEUTERONOMY 4:9)

The role of a parent is one that requires constant vigilance. Not only must parents teach God’s Word and ways to their children and grandchildren, but they must also follow them. (** from the book; Everything the bible says about parenting) 

Being a parent is one great opportunity to learn, get equipped and touch the next generation through our children. And that gift is something that we could always be grateful of by being good stewards of this gift. It is my prayer that my child would grow in the ways of the Lord so that when they grow old, they know how to live life having the fear of the Lord. 

Our discoveries with our little-hyperactive fireball is still far from the finish line. Our disciplining is hardly over. We still have to train our little-active fireball to practice self-control, to be attentive, to honor authority, to listen and accept our instructions without too much drama or throwing tantrums. Our present hurdle is her self-control. Her understanding of “no” is a bit of a challenge, she still throws a huge tantrum if she doesn’t get in her way. For example, if we wanted her to stop running around the grocery lines and we hold her hand to stop, she would cry loudly and make a scene. If we carry her, she would even shout for “help”. Another example is her usage of gadgets. Since we would like her to limit her screentime, once we say stop and take her Ipad, she would cry aggresively until she turns red. 

We have tried addressing this attitude through several techniques for now, before we resort to spanking. First, we ask permission from her and give her a heads up, to up to what time she can use her Ipad. For example, we say ” Jaja you only have 10 minutes left to use your Ipad, okay?” If she ignores that, I’ll come to her and ask her the same question until she replies “okay” then I let her use the Ipad. (Most of the time it works, but when it doesn’t;) Second, we try to distract her with other activities like listening to music or showing her a book, so we can divert her attention. Third, if she is really upset because she has been denied of what she wants, I would stop whatever Im doing and come to her, put her aside and talk to her and explain. (Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t) But for what it’s worth, we will always instill discipline to her until she grasp and embrace OBEDIENCE. 

Proverbs 19:18 – 

“Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭19:18‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Children must be disciplined while there is opportunity, for there will come a day that its too late for parents to discipline their children. For a parent not to discipline their child is to allow them to continue in ways of folly, which puts them on a path to their eventual death. (Everything the Bible Says about Parenting and Children Book)

I look forward to the day when Jael would embrace obedience not by force but because she knows that it is for her good which leads to blessing. We still have a long way to go, until then, it is still a journey that we have to take to discover more things about our child. To develop and train her according to the ways of the Lord. And the more we think it, the more we realized how much grace and wisdom we needed from the Lord! 

Family Milestones: Reflections and 5th Wedding Anniversary

Family Milestones: Reflections and 5th Wedding Anniversary

This blog is written to honor my husband, Jake as we celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary. As I reflect on the many wonderful blessings I received one of these, was my marriage to my husband. 

Yes, our marriage is not perfect, obviously we are two different people with lots of differences. But, God being the center of our relationship makes those differences work together, perfectly well. 

Truthfully, I can say that I am not near anywhere I am now in terms of maturity or understanding my calling if its not with my supportive husband. 


Wonderful lessons I am learning so far in marriage; 

1. Differences makes marriage exciting. My husband and I works in the same industry doing the same thing. People would often ask how is it working for us and honestly I can say that we normally shy away discussing our corporate life experience when we are at home. It’s boring and it does not excite us at all, besides we are competitors. 

Other than that, I wish that my husband would share my love for reading or journalling instead of him watching “Jason Bourne” sequels repeatedly but he won’t. And that makes it all exciting. Obviously for the fact that at least we have something different to talk about. 

Like those movies he watches sparks interest in me to sit down and listen to him as he narrates his amazement on the characters. It does excite me to know that there our differences make us more interesting to each other, there are still so many things to share and learn from each other. 

2. Differences don’t really matter. I know many would not agree with me, but at least in our marriage we experienced that when Jake and I disagrees with some things we still find ways to agree on our disagreements. 

We often see and figure things differently but we are always in agreement that if it would benefit our relationship, the people around us, our family and our child – doesn’t matter whose idea won, we will still support and help each other. We learned to accept and respect each other.
3. Our differences makes us value each other more. In some terms they say learn to “compromise”. Our marriage has lots of those and we respect each other’s individual goals and dreams. And though we are one in the sight of God and of men, we understand that we are still our own unique person. 

We have different ways of expressing ourselves towards each other, we have different ways of tackling things, different ways of solving problems and many more. Believe it or not, we are always learning from each other. 

One example is my husbands passion for fitness, this is not something I would write in my journal of priorities. But as I learn from my husband, I learned than more than the asthetics the end results would benefit our family too, making us live stronger and better, far from sickness and learning how to be good stewards of God’s temple (our body). Later on, I joined him in his fitness journey and it’s giving me more benefits than I could ever imagined. 
I am really grateful that today God has given us a day to ponder and reflect on the many benefits of being together. Relationships make life more meaningful. 

God gave me the best partner I could ever have. We maybe different in many things, what we bring in to our table are all different expectations and insecurities but Jesus is our perfector and He makes us one. We are not different in our faith. One thing that we have in common, Jake and I love Jesus and that changes us, making us a perfect fit for each other.

Which is why I am so thankful that for 5 years of marriage knowing that we are two different people, by God’s grace we walked through life circumstances as One. 

We’ve been through lack, blessings, death, sickness, healing, unemployment, debts, giving birth, celebrations, loss and many more – our faith in Jesus keeps us together despite of our differences. This is our hope and confidence for 5 years and we look forward to more years here on earth or until we meet Jesus in heaven. 
We will grow (old) together! Yay! For more years and beyond! 🥂

Stay at Home Mom Adventures: Week 2

Stay at Home Mom Adventures: Week 2

Days are passing swiftly and now we approached week 2 of our family transitions. Having a toodler around is a sweet responsibility and it’s something that my husband and I take seriously. 

I therefore conclude that being “parents” is not only a responsibility but a “higher calling” that we must learn. If we wanted to be intentional in guiding our child to walk in the ways of the Lord, we have to make sure that we instruct only according to God’s ways. Forget all those child development fads and really dig deeper into the biblical ways, God’s methods. 

Wiping a runny nose, answering countless questions, exchanging your favorite series to peppa pig, singing animals and vegetables are just the tip of the iceberg. I learned that there is so much more that my husband and I must learn in order for us to nurture God’s precious daughter into becoming a woman God designed her to be. And we have to be faithful stewards of this precious gift, because God called us to it. 

REALITY SPEAKS

This season of our lives is something that we always have look forward to. Being away for a year from our child, to seek better future has given a little toll on us and it’s something that we have to catch up. That is why I was seeking for tips, advises and guidance from those moms who were ahead of us. Those I think can guide me. But I realized that there is no “one” formula to it. Children are created differently and so we dare not compare who does parenting well. It’s okay to listen to the advises but we have to also filter because I realized the one who knows our child more than we do, is the One who created her.

So in our pursuit of ways to discipline our child – we found that God in His wisdom has a lot to say on how to take care of our sweetpea. God made us realized that being a parent is more than just being a maid, cook, playmate etc.. it is about molding character, training, guiding and nurturing. And what better way to do this, but to go through God’s ways. Understanding the biblical disciplines of parenting and to faithfully instruct our child in the ways of the Lord. 

The bible says; 

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians ‭6:4‬ ‭ESV

All the while I have passed through this verse I thought that it was a reminder to fathers of not provoking their children but the chunk of meat is found on the second part, which I think is a challenge. I know that it’s not going to be an easy task, but realizing the treasures and the gifts of being called a parent is already a blessing. 

SITUATION 

No one told my daughter how to ignore us, but she does. I thought at first it’s because she was doing some interesting things, but later I found that my 3 year old daughter deliberately pretends not to hear us when we call her. Why? She just wants to or maybe no one told her that it is not good to ignore people. 

My initial reaction was to get into her way and ask her why she pretends of not hearing me? (Well, I got too emotional when I discovered it so I wanted to address it right away) 

But, God dealt with my heart, first. He made me think of those times when we His children does the same even on our grown up age to pretend of not hearing Him when He calls out our name. And we do it over and over again. What a shame! 

So I felt humbled, I realized that in order for us, forme specially, to become a good mother, I myself should tackle my heart intent and let God sort this for me. Frankly, it is always easy for us to tell our kids what they have done wrong, but it would take a lot of prayers, discipline, understanding on our part to INSTRUCT our children according to God’s word. The problem is, if we dont spend time with God, we get overwhelmed and our instructions may come from different sources causing different results. 

So I got on my knees and pray. Seek wisdom on how am I going to become that mother who reaches the heart of her child. Besides, I dont want my baby to grow up pretending or to be someone she dont want to be. I wanted her to walk in the ways God called her to be, I wanted her to respect authorities, to recognize the beauty of obedience and rise up as a woman after God’s own heart. So when she grows up, when she is on her own, capable to think on her own, she won’t let go of these principles. 

Of course, I won’t expect my 3 year old to be like that tomorrow, it would definitely take time. It will take time. My calling is to respond in passion and ownership because I am sure that the rewards are far greater than I could ever imagine. It is my calling, my priority and my struggle and my goal. So I will rise to this occasion and accept motherhood with humbleness. I will love, train, guide and nurture my child in the way God has called me to do. 
I would gladly exchange my favorite tv shows just to check if the things she’s watching is helping her or not. I would gladly listen to her stories over and over again until she learn to speak in wisdom. To watch her ways over and over again, to guide her to the path until she reaches her destination, to where God has called her to be. 

CONCLUSION 


This week gave us valuable lessons. Yes, it is not easy to become a parent – but be encouraged because this means that we will witness God’s wisdom unfolding as we train and guide our kids, manage our homes and nurture our families.
And God’s grace our children in the future will arise and call us, blessed! 

Stay At Home Mom Adventures: Week 1 

Stay At Home Mom Adventures: Week 1 

I was really looking forward to this new season of my life where I can finally do what I want to do at my own phase, without targets and without a boss to please – because now, I am officially a homemaker. Yes, I quit from my job, left the corporate world, because I have embraced my calling. 

I can be the best mom and wife, I ever wanted to be! 



Fast forward to week 1 and it started to kick in that mom life is not as easy as I expected it to be. 

Like today, I was up at 530 to make sure that I can catch up to the needs of this day. Then there’s cooking of breakfast, pack lunches, lunch menu and dinner and so on. Then theres, the wake up time for Jael (my daughter) and clean up time and playtime. 

Let me stop from here, because the list really can go on and on. Clearly there is no stopping to what my day would be like from now on. And as I write this, it’s only 2pm (my daugther is taking her nap, I just took a quick break to write something on my blog, just to update) 

By the way, I am a newbie to this FTHM (full time home maker) title and I still have a very long journey to walk on. Frankly,  its only a week that passed and I already cut on my normal “me-time routine” my bible study, journalling and exercise. 
For sure, it is quite overwhelming and to be honest there is just so many things to do. I am literally busy as of yet and those things that I mentioned I wanted to keep up maybe can wait a little while,cos I have people that I have to take care of! 

Hopefully, I would have the luxury of time to do those, when I get a hang of this mom life routines. 


DEEP INSIDE MY HEART 

I know, there may be a way to do this “mom-life” intentionally and systematically. Because I believe that if I let go of those important things that I love to so for myself, the mommy life role would definitely overwhelm me. For sure, I would not be able to play the role for very long. I must find a way to make this work. 


GOD ANSWERS

This morning, while my totty is still sleeping and my husband is in the shower, prepping, I grabbed my bible and just read a short passage in Ephesians. Viola! God’s word is really powerful, that it reminded me so much of how important it is for us women/moms/wives to be rooted and grounded in love and to be intentional. Because God, our heavenly Father, He as our parent would want us to enjoy life, His blessings in abundance and be inspired by His grace and not be dragged down with daily chores and tasks of each day. 


“For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” 

Ephesians‬ ‭3:14-19‬ ‭ESV‬‬
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It gave me chills, to know that God cares. Those words were so comforting and reassuring, exactly what I needed to hear to be all pumped up so I can start my day right. 

Thankful, that He is a good Father and He sees my heart right through and He would not let me drop those things that are important for me. He wanted me to learn from him, reminded to be rooted and grounded in love that I may have strength to comprehend what God wants me to achieve. It’s not just about living life, serving husbands and children but doing it excellently, with a purpose. 


REALIZATION

Honestly, what is 15minutes of reading God’s word and receiving from Him? Very short pep talk to hear instructuon directly from God. Specially now that I am in need to hear from Him more and more because I badly need someone that can guide me in raising up my daughter and serving my husband with the best of my ability to bring glory to His name. Giving me the proper steps how to do it according to His ways. What better way to receive it than from God’s word directly. 

And just today, the reason why I can write a blog this long, is because God gave me snippets of instructions through friends, through reading some moms online giving tips on how to manage time wisely for me and the entire family. Goody, it worked! And now I just need to practice and practice and be consistent. 

I am confident that I would learn more along this journey and I am thrilled to understand more about parenting and home making. To do things the excellent way not out of compulsion or obligation, but deeply rooted and grounded in love. 

Life is exciting the way I see it. And I have dreams of what my daughter would become and how my family would be. I just need to abide and be teachable each time, for God’s abundant love is covering me. This is our story, our victory and with God by my side who can be against me? 

Next time, I would like to share some of the new things I learn. Hopefully can inspire some new moms, striving to be the best that they can. There is hope! There is more to life because with Jesus there is always a better future, there is a beautiful purpose! 

Love lots, 

Marra 

The Mishaps Of The First Time Mother : Story Of My Life 

They say that there are no perfect parents, but, we can be excellent in this divine role that we are called to do. If you are called to be a parent, a mom or a dad – you can be excellent at it! There’s hope! 

In intro, our family does not have a perfect family set-up, our work overseas gave us a momentary distance with our little one for almost a year. We have our financial priorities to settle and the only way to earn more in a shorter period of time is to go abroad. Not only the pay is high, but opportunities are a lot. So my husband and I decided to work overseas and leave our childcare to my mom in law. (Some may not understand this situation but it’s something that most of our countrymen do, due to lack of opportunities)

Now, here is the fun part… after a year of tears, patience, hardwork, prayer, sheer determination, blood, sweat & by God’s grace we reached our goal. It’s time to go back home, for good. Fast forward to the present situation, my work as a financial consultant in the corporate world has FINALLY ended and I am now venturing to a full-time housewife role. (Some of my friends cringe when they hear this, but I am excited – because I know God called me to this) 

After months of prayers and interceeding and seeking God’s answers, we finally made it through this wonderful decision. My husband and I thought that this is what God wants us to do and for myself, I am sure of my calling this time – to become a mom/homemaker/housewife. After all, God is entrusting me with huge opportunities of not only taking care of his son (my husband), our home affairs but most important, the future of the next generation (through my daughter). 

CATCH THE STORY

Oh joy, glad that finally we are reunited together after a year. My baby, my husband and myself, just us, no helper, no parents – just us. 
And migrating process demands lots of errands, which is obviously part of our transitions – it does requires us to travel for a moment and since we worked overseas for a decade we still have some paperworks to accomplish. That’s why we still need to stay for 2 more months overseas (in the country we are residing in) but good news, this time we got to do all these with our baby – as a family. 

So we got on to our plane, all set. Checklist are all okay, checked in our luggages and finally settled on to our seats. And to cut the long story short, we reached our destination easy-peasy. We landed safely  and when it’s time to head on to the immigration, suddenly, my 3 year old toodler decided to poop. Oh yes, it was that awful smelling boombastic poop that I need to attend to, ASAP! (There is no explaining here, my baby needs to go, quickly)

So right after immigration, we went straight to the toilet and baam! When I checked our bags – its incomplete…Ive got no wet wipes, no extra baby clothes, all I have is one diaper, yes… just one spare diaper. So I have to relax and think breathe in and breathe out, there must be a way to this… 

So, I have to be creative this time, I must find ways to clean up my little princess. So I went inside the cubicle and reality kicks in,  I think I need more than tissues, so I tried to clean as much as I can but that stinking smell is still there. Grabbed my  water bottle inside that carry-on bag so I used it to wash my baby. And by the way there was no baby room available for us, so I have to do it inside that cubicle – good thing it’s clean and tidy. As for the clothes, Ive got my smallest pair of shirt on my other bag that looked like a dress to my baby, so it’s okay. It was a memorable experience. 

LESSONS

Aside from the very obvious lesson which is to keep everything in check and always bring extras of everything… Ive got tons of lessons that I took away from that experience.

  • When life gives you lemons, make a lemonade

I realized, that there are no abc’s to motherhood, well maybe not for all. We all learn from our mistakes and there are no perfect mothers. Learn from experience and be ready when situation calls us to think on our feet, make a solution. When it comes to our little ones, we got to be creative, finding ways and resourceful, its not the time to whine and cry – this is about them. Situations can vary, but we have to be on our toes thinking and resolving. 

  • Accept your mistakes, forgive yourself and improve, be better

Mistakes and failures are tools for learnings. Sometimes even as we read books or listen to other’s experiences we still forget but the moment we experience it ourselves, how is it like to forget a simple “wet-wipe” to put inside your bag – what will happen and etc… you’ll learn. So next time, before leaving home, check and recheck, do some checklist separated for the needs of your child. Do a system that works best for you. Doesn’t have to perfect just a practical system that is workable for you, for your husband most importantly for your child. 

  • Be humble and continue learning

First time mothers like me, tend to be excited to do all things, all the time specially concerning the affairs of our baby. We all want to be hands-on.  
And because we are moms, we always hear that “mothers knows best” we sometimes pretend that we know best – but admit it or not we don’t know everything. There are so many things to learn. Thus, require us to continue learning from people we know best, our very own mothers, the other moms who has more experience than us and of course looking up to the only perfect parent, God. 
We can’t absorb motherhood in one sitting, it may take a while to learn all, but if we are willing, we can be excellent in this calling. Open your heart and learn, don’t stop and practice it all the time. 

CONCLUSIONS

Be encouraged moms and dads. Although, we sometimes fail with our planning and etc, it’s okay. Here is our comfort: 

Lamentations 3:22–23

The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases;
His mercies never come to an end;
They are new every morning;
Great is your faithfulness.

We always have our hope and our greatest comfort is knowing that although we are inadequate, we may sometimes miss the mark – God, our heavenly Father will always fill our cups and He will teach us, He will guide us on our way in fulfilling our highest calling, to disciple our children, to become excellent in our purpose and to nurturing the next generation. 
So Moms, don’t stop, you’ll get there! 

Our Week Lately: I am so busy! 

Our Week Lately: I am so busy! 

{For the purpose of gaining consistency in writing, I promised to update this blog everyday. Whether I have readers or not, surprisingly, just recently I gained some visitors in my page, which is an added bonus for me – that’s why I would like to thank you for liking my post and following my blog} 

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It’s been past 3 days since I wrote something on my blog. I was too busy with so many events happening in our lives, so here is the summary of all that happened in my week so far; 

  • Send-Off


My husband and I has been blessed by wonderful friends through our life-group. It is always an amazing journey to walk with each families and see growth in them. It is overwhelming to witness how God is at work to each of the families, in blessing and giving instructions. 

So last thursday we sat down for dinner with our good friends to catch up and hear some testimonies of blessings and faith, before they even fly off to Manila for good. 

See you soon! 

  • Cake Time


As I have mentioned before, I have been studying and learning how to do beautiful cakes, I still have a long way to go before I can finally start my business. I am eager to learn the process and the in and outs of the business, which entails the procedures of product development. 

Last Saturday, I baked an ombre-cake with buttercream flowers and lemon curd filling. 

  • Birthdays


We celebrated one of our good friend’s birthday, the cake I baked was for her too. It was such a fun night of laughters, updates, catch-up and food. 

It’s always good to be surrounded with wonderful people.

  • Sunday Service


I was able to shed some light to some good old friends about our plans of going back home for good. Our church topic is still about clarity, and the more I hear it, the more the Lord makes it all making sense. He is like confirming all His promises and instructions through His words, we can’t wait to finally be home with our daughter and be together, finally! 

  •  Work

Yes, due to the recent bad news, our office is going cray-cray about meeting deadlines. Nowadays we have been busy, we have never been this busy – it’s the last hoorah of our 10 year partnership with a certain bank, so maybe that’s the reason why. I am in the moment and I am thankful that I have been part of this season as well. There is so much to learn. 

  • Bible-Reading

I got too engrossed with Proverbs, then lately, I realized that I never really had the idea of the life of it’s author “King Solomon”. So I jumped right in, to read his autobiography found in the book of 1 Kings, chapters 1-11. I have yet to finish reading it, which I’m trying to write a synopsis of it and a summary of how His life was, hopefully next time I can write something about it. 

There is so much to learn from the wisest man alive, his traits, his leadership, his management and priorities, his achievements or maybe his failures too. I can’t wait. 

But for now let me leave this note here, it’s a reminder from the Lord to Solomon during his busyness in building the temple; 

Concerning this house that you are building, if you will walk in my statutes and obey my rules and keep all my commandments and walk in them, then I will establish my word with you, which I spoke to David your father. 

(1 King 6:12)

What can we learn from it?

Sometimes in our busyness – in life, ministry, projects and plans, it is always easy to neglect the Lord. This verse, reminds us of what our priorities should be like – that is to pursue God’s righteousness, walk in His statutes, obey His rules and His commandments. To walk in them, so that He can establish it for us, whatever promise He gave. 

REMEMBER

The Lord is not only the author, but He is also the finisher of our faith – our faith to finish a goal, to finish a task, our faith to become a better person, a spouse or a child, our faith to reach our dreams – He will establish it for us, if we obey His rules, leaving it up to Him. 🙂 

Have a great week! 

January Goals: Booked! 

January Goals: Booked! 

I am on 2 day medical rest as per doctor’s advise. It’s nothing serious, it’s just a simple body sore because of the series of runs I made – 5 days ago. 

Well, times like “restdays” , are very much welcomed and appreciated in my life. I can lay down a little bit longer in bed, slow things down a little bit and do other stuffs apart from work will always be a joy – read a book, update my blog, read the bible, write my journal, do some research on my business planning, etc. 

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Today is the 6th day of January and I really can see some developments with our goals this year. And my heart could not contain all the joy – to express my thrilling anticipation in receiving God’s answers to His promises and surprises. 

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One of our goals this year is to migrate back home – which means that we have to do lots of stuffs in our checklist, and make it all happen – to pack our things, book our airline tickets, buy some furnitures to our new home, study about possible schools for Jael, do some business planning, find a reliable helper, research some gardening stuffs for our front and back yard, look for a family car, study budgeting -find ways to lessen our expensesto meet our savings goals and more. 

One of the major expenses that is listed in my expenditures, is our airfare. There were iterinaries and number of trips required for us to fly in order to finish our “balik-bayan” (homecoming) project. To top that off, it does not permit me to overspend, which means, I have to stay true to my budgeting and keep it transparent, no surprises or impulses,to maintain our projection.

So my airfare tix-hunting journey started. Initially, I wrote down the prices of different airlines to compare prices and the total cost for our whole family trips. It’s a series of going back here and there – so that means we may have to spend a little bit on these fares. And it’s a toll order, because it’s really very costly. Somehow it would affect my savings projections. 

  
So the research started. Although we have allocated the budget for it, I am not convinced that we are ready to pay that fare-amount, maybe there’s some more ways to cut down, were just not aware of it. 

Recently, I learned that airlines – specially budget flights, can sometimes declare promotions, they reduce fees, helping us save more (well call me ignorant, but it’s only now that we get to know all these) haha! They offer seat sales, they remove the taxes and surcharges on specific dates. So I waited and waited. 

Initially the budget I came up with is more than what we wanted to pay, honestly. Good thing I learned to become a “budgetarian“, a little squeeze here and there, a little alterations, a little adjustment – successfully I made a way to produce the budget we need, so we can buy the tickets even at it’s normal price. Yet, we are still hopeful, that somehow, we will not consume all of the allocated budget and maybe I can find some better deals. 

  

Then, a surprise came, one airline company declared a “piso fare” – all in, no surcharge, no fees – just an all in package. Who are we to decline such great offers – indeed it’s our first time to grab such kind of deal. Right away, we grabbed it. 

Funny thing is, this is not an unsual deal to many, specially, to some pinoy friends who loves to travel. But for us as a family, we are not aware of such. 
Even before when we were a little bit careless – we don’t mind paying (not to brag) because we thought, it’s just fine -it’s just a few bucks of savings and it won’t hurt us, to compensate the least, it would save us a lot of troubles of waiting, looking, searching and all that. Just book it if you need it. 

But then I realized that it’s us whose losing. I mean, we are not millionaires yet, like Bill Gates – we still have to be good stewards of our income, whether big or small, because it’s only entrusted to us by God. So we have to be mindful of our expenses and our spending habits. 
All it takes is just a little bit of strategy, research, patience and awareness. We understand that God wants us to be faithful, starting from the small so He can give us the big. 
So after series of waiting (not to long) and researching, Viola! the predicted price went down, all the way down to 60% off from the original expected price for airfare – what a blessing! Finally, I am convinced that this is exactly the price I have been waiting for, I am very much willing to pay for. Worth the wait! 

So we booked it!
The whole family is confirmed flying in the coming days! Wohoo! 

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As usual, I learned wonderful lessons from this experience and journey. 

1. Always do some research
It’s always good to find ways on how we can save more and spend less. Living below our means would definitely boost more savings. 

Make sure that we are really getting the value for money, lol! Seriously though, researching is an important tool for us to indentify probabilities, possiblities, opportunities and more. 

If we let ourselves jumped in and grabbed what was offered right away and didn’t researched or carefully gave a thought – well maybe then, we’ll missed the favors and the good deals. 

2. Always be ready
Research is one thing, being ready and getting ready is another thing. If we didn’t prepare for upcoming expenses or events, we may miss the offers. What are we going to do when the promotion comes, if we don’t have a “ready” budget, we will surely can’t take advantage of it. 

Preparing is always a good thing – it allows us to be ready. Like the ants, they always think winter. Even during summer, they toil, they labor, they prepare themselves for the winter. And when winter comes – they are ready. They can relax a little because they have saved for that future season. 

“Preach the word of God. Be prepared, whether the time is favorable or not. Patiently correct, rebuke, and encourage your people with good teaching.” ‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭4:2‬ ‭NLT‬‬

3. Be faithful

God seeks faithful children. Our consistency and intent always matter. It’s not about how much do we have, or when we can have a goal achieved. It’s about out attitude and our character. 

Being faithful even to the little entrusted things God laid down to us. When you wish to achieve a certain goal, a savings goal, a blog goal – be faithful even to the little things that can help you grow. 

Our success depends on how faithful we have become. As children of God, He demonstrated to us His faithfulness – we must imitate it – so we can experience joy and favors. 

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Altogether, we are down for a little less than 80 days before going back home to start this wonderful journey with our little one in our home sweet home. 

New memories, new experiences, new stories, new lessons and learnings will surely be there. And yes, we are so ready for it. 
Hooray for a goal achieved! Wohoo! ✔️