Sitting down to read & hear from God is life-changing. These past few weeks, I have been establishing a “study-time” faithfully, to really chew on God’s word for the intention of knowing Him more and to deepen my relationship with Him. The more I read, the more I realize how much re-alignment I need from God because He sees me differently, so much better from how I live myself.
I can see that there is so much to learn and so much to change. I am a work in progress!
With so much wisdom we can get from God, I felt in my heart that it is meant to be shared too, so I am humbly writing this blog today.
Let me start a series called “Learning Moment” to share with you some of the lessons we receive from God daily. Sharing with you the instructions and rebukes we ought to change for the Lord while we study His words, hopefully it can shed some light to those who read. Join me in studying and practicing these Godly character-building lessons.
To start of, let’s talk about our mouths. Our speech, words we say, the way we talk, our tounge!
For some of us we love to talk. We love talking to different group of people (friends, strangers) sharing our ideas, ideals and life-experiences, it’s our way to develop relationships.
But when is it healthy to talk and when is it healthy to stop? Should we just keep on talking as long as there is someone listening? Is it okay to have opinions about everything and anything?
The bible teaches a lot, to help us tame our tounge, to help us be gracious in our speeches and to help us use our mouths only to encourage. It’s an important characteristic of a Godly person who walks in the wisdom of God. Let me enumerate some of the wonderful lessons and instructions God wants us to develop personally in our lives.
- Listen More, Talk Lesser
People who are prone to commit mistakes are the ones who really never listen to the instructions. People who get into a fight are the ones who didn’t listen to the needs of others and mis-interpreted a certain situation. People who talk and talk and talk does not give a chance for others to speak.
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. – James 1:19
Why? When you are quick to speak, we don’t have time to gather your thoughts. When we are emotionally driven, we speak out of what we feel and later feel sorry for it’s results. When we speak thoughtlessly, we say words that we don’t mean.
- Choose Your Words Wisely
Our mouths is the gateway to our hearts. “Out of the abundance of our hearts the mouth speaks” We cannot speak things thoughtlessly. People who walks in the wisdom of God, chooses the words that comes out of their mouth for they know that they are accountable for it. We cannot just keep on letting words easily go out there because there is an implication to everything that we are saying.
The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life; But violence covereth the mouth of the wicked.- Proverbs 10:11
Check your speech. If it’s not uplifting, encouraging, life-empowering and we can’t walk it then don’t say it. Think it first before you speak it. We are measured by the words we say.
- Speak in Wisdom
Have you ever met a person who has a lot of opinions about anything that is being talked/shared/discussed about? Or a person who always speak about his achievements, his story, his life, his complaints etc..? Whilst we are being annoyed by such a character, we also have to keep ourselves in check if we somehow cross this border.
In the lips of him that hath discernment wisdom is found; But a rod is for the back of him that is void of understanding.
The degree of our understanding, whether folly or wisdom is always measured by our speech.
A man of understanding has wise speech, it encourages and builds up others. But a man of folly has only evil in his speech, it destroys and offends those who hear. The more we talk, the more we get ourselves prone to mistakes and judgment – and we don’t want that.
God is pouring out wisdom to His children on how to have discernment also in dealing with people. Measure them by their speech.
Good men with wisdom convey knowledge, godly counsel and sound wisdom, and they do it in a loving and gracious way. Fools have profane hearts, they blabber, out of their speech comes conceit, selfishness, they complain about mostly everything, they talk excessively about their little problems and talk foolishly about their opinions everytime. There is no space of communicating with these kind of people. Let us not be like them.
- Be a responsible speaker
The difference of a wise and a fool man, wise man knows what he talks about but the fool man talks out of ignorance.
At the early part of the book of Proverbs, Solomon mentioned that the “wise” continues to love wisdom for it increases their wisdom and understanding – he puts it on emphasis by mentioning it again and again in different chapters.
What kind of people do we want to become? Foolish or Wise? The choice is always ours.
But the difference of the two is quite obvious
- Wise loves to study, Fools only talk.
- Wise lay up knowledge, Fools lay out words.
- Wise men listens, Fools wants to be heard.
- Wise are quick to listen slow to speak, Fools quick to speak slow to listen.
- Wise men despise fools.
- Wise men grows in favor of God, Fools are despised for they reject the truth.
Wise men lay up knowledge; But the mouth of the foolish is a present destruction. Proverbs 10:12
Let’s choose to be wise and may it be evident in our speech. Be quick to listen and slow to speak. Begin to speak lesser and lesser and listen more and more. Emphasize study over speech. Make sure we understand situation first before speaking. Speak only in season when it is graced with graciousness like a pinch of salt that brings out flavors so as to our speeches.
These are just some of the reasons why “talking” is a risk to take. Talk at your own peril. If you have not understand the gravity of it yet, read more of God’s word. Being a child of God requires us to become like our Father, it’s not an easy task but all things are possible for those who believe it. And we have to forget about our former habits.
On the practical note, the lesser we talk the higher our reputation grows. The lesser we can commit mistakes. The more we can grow in wisdom. It also can save us a lot of energy.
There is beauty in silence. There is wisdom in wise-speaking. We don’t have to always assert ourselves to be heard, sometimes listening is what this world really needs. Listen more, talk less!
** exhortations taken from the book of Proverbs**